Divorce can bring out the worst in all of us. Divorce is a time in which a person is being tested emotionally, so often their emotional survival mode kicks in, and they may revert to the emotions that they display in times of extreme stress and vulnerability. For some, this can mean feeling depressed, ashamed or anxious. For others, this may cause them to be unable to control their anger.
If you are dealing with emotions such as anger that you feel unable to control, it is important that you learn healthy coping mechanisms to deal with this. The following is an overview of how to handle your emotions during a divorce.
Find a healthy outlet for your emotions
No matter what emotions you are experiencing, they are healthy and unhealthy ways to deal with them. Even if you are extremely angry with your spouse and feel that you have a right to feel this way, it’s also important that you do not take it out on them. Shouting in your ex-spouse’s face or harassing them could lead to charges being made against you. Instead, acknowledge your anger and find a healthy outlet for it. Try taking a boxing class or go on a run — exercise is a great way to handle anger because the endorphins released will help counteract the negative emotions you are experiencing.
Realize that you are not the victim
Having a victim mentality can often fuel the feeling of anger. Remind yourself that while you can never control what happens to you in life, you can alwaysto the situations that present yourself. You always have the opportunity to be the hero in your own story. In a movie of your life, imagine what the hero version of you would do in any given situation.
Going through a divorce is not easy. However, by taking early action to, you will be in a better place and able to have full control over your situation.